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Wake Up Call! – Your Mother’s Day Blessing

 


YOUR MOTHER’S DAY BLESSING

Naming your blessings is a reminder of who has blessed your journey.

My mother was not the easiest person. She was adept at isolating herself by her words and acts. She was also funny, proud of her sons and unexpectedly kind to strangers. It was an often confounding and complex mix of traits.

On Mother’s Day I choose to remember the blessings that she gave and left behind.

In naming the sacrifices she made for my benefit I am humbled. In her joy of entertaining I discovered the gift of hospitality. In her harsh judgments of others I was pointed to another way of experiencing life.

Like many she was doing the best she could with the tools she had. As she lay dying in our home she asked us, “Why do you love me so much?” It was a final blessing that loving another person is not in spite of them, but because of whom they are. Naming her blessings is a blessing. Whose blessings will you give thanks for today?

Call-to-Action:

  • Name the blessings that someone has bestowed on you

  • Ask to be a blessing to someone today

Notice how naming blessings allows you to be grateful for the complexities of your own life and those you love.

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Wake Up Call! – Judging Others

 


JUDGING OTHERS

Judging others is a choice to avoid the fullness of your life.

I called Ben on his constant dribble of judgment towards other people. After a very defensive response Ben acknowledged that passing judgment had become a way of life. He agreed to find some help.

He could have chosen to remain in his judgment comfort zone but was instead open to living beyond it.

Ben discovered that his judgments were a learned behavior from adults he’d grown up around. He also realized that judging others made him feel better about himself. “I learned that my judgments were a way to avoid truths about my own life” he confessed.

Living beyond judgment revealed a new way of being to Ben. He began to stop judging and start accepting others. His next epiphany was to stop judging and start loving. Ben said “I now inhabit my own life and I even love it.” What will you do with judgments?

Call-to-Action:

  • Replace a judgment with acceptance of another

  • Instead of judging try loving

Notice that the things you can do nothing about are released and those which you can change are seen differently when acceptance and love conspire.

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Wake Up Call! – The Gratitude Surprise

 


THE GRATITUDE SURPRISE

Be prepared to be surprised by gratitude.

Each year on my birthday I begin the day by entering into gratitude. I start by naming people who have shaped me. Then I offer an intention to be surprised by gratitude throughout the day.

I could choose to see my birthday as a day much like any other but this practice brings surprises.

This year rich childhood memories of my parents were joined by unexpected memories of those who have disturbed my life or caused pain to me.

The surprise was the reminder that those who brought about painful or upending experiences gave me an unintended gift. It is a gift of intentionality about choosing what grounds my life. With gratitude I offer an intention for the well-being of my unexpected gift-bearers. Who and what will you be grateful for?

Call-to-Action:

  • Express your gratitude for at least one person today

  • Offer your intention to be surprised by gratitude

Notice the unexpected surprises gratitude brings to your life.

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Wake Up Call! – Your Self-Compassion

 


YOUR SELF-COMPASSION

The path beyond being harsh on yourself is the way of self-compassion.

I was reflecting on a recent speaking engagement and berating myself for not answering a question as clearly as I could have. Yes, such moments are invitations to learn but there I was being harsh about it.

I could have stayed under that negative cloud but instead chose the path of self-compassion.

As I mindfully recalled the engagement I visualized the audience – the engaged faces and body language, the insightful array of questions and people lingering to talk afterwards. As I gave thanks for those present I felt compassion for each person.

Yes, I had done a good job! I was able to be tender, appreciative and compassionate to myself for all that was done well. The harshness began to dissipate in the life-giving light of compassion. What will self-compassion reveal to you?

Call-to-Action:

  • Acknowledge it when you are being harsh on yourself

  • Name the beauty in you and in what you do

Notice how the way of self-compassion quickens your delight in yourself and others.

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Wake Up Call! – Your Courage

 


YOUR COURAGE

Your courage to be guided by what sustains your life is a precious gift.

I was mesmerized by a formation of twelve hundred stones this week. I was on Robben Island and each stone had been placed by a former political prisoner at a reunion marking their years or decades of incarceration.

I could have viewed it as another cairn of stones but instead it was a place of pilgrimage.

Thinking of the great pilgrim sites I remembered their drawing us into truths more spacious than ourselves. I was invited to think of the courage of each person who had placed a stone on the cairn; the courage to believe in freedom and their own worth in the midst of attempts to destroy them.

The courage of ordinary people has filled my mind this week. It’s caused me to pause and acknowledge the dark moments in which I’ve had the courage to sustain my own worth and goodness. What courage sustains you on your journey?

Call-to-Action:

  • Be thankful for the courage of those known and unknown to you

  • Be mindful of the courage you have in life’s challenging times

Notice how courage sustains you and give thanks for its many expressions.

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Wake Up Call! – Finding Humor

 


FINDING HUMOR

Finding humor in challenging moments transforms you and the situation!

In the last months of our Mom’s life my brother and I noticed the increasing frequency with which she said “Yes, dear.” This all too familiar phrase of hers to dismiss us or our suggestions did not seem helpful at first.

We could have chosen a path of exasperated frustration but instead discovered humor in the phrase.

“Yes, dear” soon peppered the conversations my brother and I had about our Mom. The humor of it created space to step back from challenging moments with affection and compassion. In her final weeks our Mom even discovered the humor of her phrase.

In the midst of the sadness of preparing for my mother’s death, tough decisions were leavened by affectionate humor. Instead of reliving family history or drama we became aware of grace and love. What humor illumines your life?

Call-to-Action:

Be aware of how challenging situations can consume you.Discover gentle, affectionate humor in the situation

Notice how humor leavens a situation and illuminates it with new light.

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Choose to make 2014 a New Year of love and trust

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Wake Up Call – Contagious Happiness

 


CONTAGIOUS HAPPINESS

When you do something that makes you happy your happiness is contagious.

I wondered if I really had time for the hike I wanted to take. I was convincing myself that tasks to be done could only be accomplished if I let go of the hike. I could feel my frustration growing!

I could have chosen to prioritize my personal task list but chose to be attentive to why I needed to hike.

At the head of the trail I wondered if I should have stayed home. Then I began to notice the enjoyment of the other hikers I passed and settled in to listening to my breath and taking in the beauty around me. I smiled at myself for having made this choice so agonizing!

That evening over a meal with friends I was asked why I seemed so happy. As I spoke about the hike others started to talk about a particular happiness in their day. What choices will you make about doing that which spreads happiness?

Call-to-Action:

  • Be mindful of the choices you make each day

  • Be aware of who and what makes you happy

Notice how happiness choices enliven you and others.

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Transform your life with The Book of Forgiving

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Wake Up Call! – Your Labels

 


YOUR LABELS

When people label you can choose to honor, reject or redefine the label.

What labels have been applied to you? I remember the first time I was called a faggot. I was 13 years old and I cringed with fear, shame, anger and rejection. I knew that I was gay and the label was intended to diminish and demean.

I could choose to accept the terror of the label or I could wrestle with a richer truth that seemed hard to articulate at that age.

Over the years I befriended the “f…..” label as I accepted who I am. When I hear that word I feel affection toward it even though I know it is still a weapon for others.

I’ve learned that a myriad of labels used to define me can be interpreted in many ways for good or ill. When I am grounded in who I am I can honor their goodness, redefine their intent, or reject them. What will you do with the labels used about you?

Call-to-Action:

  • Remember not to cede your life to the labeling of others

  • Be mindfully grounded in the richness of who you are

Notice how a label can be transformed and free you for goodness.

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Transform your life with The Book of Forgiving

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Pass this on! – 5 Tools for raising compassionate kids

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Wake Up Call! – Unleashing Gratitude!

 


UNLEASHING GRATITUDE

Unleash your gratitude for friends that include nature, animals and humans.

I was with my dog Lucy in the waiting room of a veterinary hospital surrounded by animals and their human companions. As I chatted with people I was struck by their tender concern for their animals and the affection radiated by the animals.

I could have ignored this ecosystem of friendship but found myself celebrating it with new awareness.

As I gave thanks for Lucy’s loving friendship and playfulness in our household I remembered her lavish attention given to my dying mother and the comfort it brought to my mom. A memory surfaced of Sheba, the dog who gently nurtured me back to health after my teenage spinal surgeries.

My gratitude for the animals in my life has a keener appreciation to it. Their friendship is as vibrant and life-giving as any other. It feels like a richer circle of gratitude.

Call-to-Action:

  • Expand your expressions of gratitude

  • Be mindful of the friendships with nature, animals and people

Notice the lusher ecosystem of friendships that bless your life.

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Choose to make 2014 a New Year of love and trust

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Wake Up Call! – Kindness Mantra

 


KINDNESS MANTRA

Living with the intention to practice an act of kindness each day is transformative.

Last week I remembered the words of a wise guide who once said, “Be intentional about practicing an act of kindness every day because it will become a life-changing mantra.” I was on a small commuter plane last week and noticed that a young child and her dad were not able to sit together.

I could have kept my coveted aisle seat but instead chose to switch seats so they could be together.

It was a simple thing to offer. I was unprepared for the gratitude of the father. My joy was in hearing the two of them chatting on the flight in the row behind me.

As I remembered the wise words that led me to begin each day with an intention to be kind I realized that this mantra for daily living is an opportunity to be aware of those around me. What word, gesture or act of kindness will present itself today?

Call-to-Action:

  • Begin each day with an intention to be kind

  • Be aware of unexpected opportunities for kindness each day

Notice how the intention to be kind becomes a life-changing mantra in your daily interactions.

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Choose to make 2014 a New Year of love and trust

Finding purpose and meaning in your work

Pass this on! – 5 Tools for raising compassionate kids

A New Way to Be Human – available at Amazon, B&N and your local Indie book store.

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©2014 Robert V. Taylor

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