“Just another Kumbaya song” is a common side-lining of compassion. Yet we want it for ourselves. There’s the rub! Compassion is a shift from “me” to “we” thinking. To be compassionate comes from inner strength and grounding. What happens when a city signs up to be a Compassionate City?
I was involved in helping to organize the event known as Seeds of Compassion two years ago. Over 150,000 people attended events over a four day period in Seattle, highlighted by His Holiness the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Desmond Tutu. I was struck by the hunger of those attending. For many it was a desire to shift the paradigm from “me” to “we”.
In late 2009 the Charter of Compassion was unveiled. It was the vision of Karen Armstrong, the insightful chronicler of religion today. She used the cash award that came with the 2008 TED prize to offer a concrete way for transforming our thinking of what it means to be fully human. No wonder Armstrong will be in Seattle to speak and help celebrate that city becoming the first of many Compassionate Cities.
So is this all just feel good Kumbaya? Not for a moment. If the universal spiritual and moral principle of compassion is about intentionally treating others as we want to be treated, it affects our choices. This is about the sanctity of each person – with no exceptions. The Charter for Compassion reminds us that respect, equity and justice for each human being is inviolable. In the urban cauldrons of many cities that is a fragile concept.
The Charter for Compassion looses it steam when talking about what people should refrain from. Yes, it is despicable to deny basic rights to another, to incite hatred, to act or speak violently. In many cities such restraint would be a breath of fresh air to many! The Charter doesn’t pull off an irresistible invitation to the truth that there is no “me” without “we”.
Cities which sign on to the Campaign for Compassionate Cities will surely be held accountable to demonstrate how compassion is being restored to a central moral or ethical value? It is not a bad place to begin by expecting – not encouraging – “accurate and respectful information about other traditions, religions and cultures”. Gender, sexual orientation and various family configurations will hopefully be added to this list by cities like Seattle.
Beyond any quibbles with the “committee-written” feel of the Charter, its purpose and intent is powerful. It takes strength, courage and a commitment to the long haul to expect cities to be able to measure their compassion index. Yes, there is a compelling need to “make compassion a clear, luminous and dynamic force in our polarized world.”
Imagine the Compassionate Cities finding ways to celebrate the crossing of boundaries or the ways in which previously unknown interdependence is experienced between people. Now that would be an expression of enlightenment!
Karen Armstrong is to be admired for the vision of a Charter for Compassion galvanizing so many people. It could be placed as a mantra in every kitchen. Compassionate Cites is a movement that can make significant measurable changes to the lives of ordinary people. Seattle embodies the best of American innovation and generosity of spirit in leading the way as the first city in the US and the world to sign up. Vancouver BC is likely to be the second city to sign up. How might it affect Cleveland, Boise, Fort Myers, Washington DC or your own city?
Compassionate Cities, like the Charter, will have their greatest impact in lives changed and transformed by everyday acts of compassion. It is about the courage, strength and willingness of each person who commits to compassion as a way of life.
There’s no Kumbaya about “me to we”. It’s the real thing.
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Our lives are like the Universe and Creation. Like them, there is always something breaking out or unfolding in our lives. We are not static! For many, the Easter celebration is about new life emerging from the old. Is there an “Easter gift” in thinking about new life, new possibility, breaking out in your life?
Happiness research reveals many of us think that new variety and activity will make us happier. The research shows that most of us get great satisfaction and enjoyment from returning to something familiar. Is this because you and I are hard-wired to be grounded?
Being grounded doesn’t mean I’m resistant to change. In fact, being grounded makes it possible to be alive and open to new life, new insights, and new possibilities emerging in my life.
My friend Kay emailed me this week to say, How do I get my Easter back? I really don’t want it to be colored eggs and bunnies. I have always used the time working in my yard as a reflecting time. As I worked in the yard I was giving thanks for the blessing of new life in my flowers and yard. She answered her own question! Instead of looking back to the past, she discovered an answer among the living things in her garden. She is literally grounded in the experience of the dirt of the earth!
Knowing what grounds us is like preparing the soil for planting. Knowing who I am grounds me. Practicing mindfulness each day grounds me. Finding delight in the course of every day is grounding. Values of compassion and love center and draw me into new possibilities. You probably have your own pathways of grounding.
The Easter image of a tomb empty and open is a life-giving invitation to think about your own life. Like stones used to seal a tomb, most of us build self-fulfilling enclosures around our lives. We use them to keep ourselves away from experiencing new life – “I can’t do that!” Old ghosts, words of reprimand, addiction to an old image of self all conspire to keep us from new creation in us. Perhaps what was once erected for self-protection has no purpose now? You probably have your own list of the bricks which make up your enclosure!
In some traditions, Easter is called the “eighth day of creation”. It imagines that old patterns, old cycles can be broken, stepped beyond! Most of us take small steps towards new life, new possibilities. It’s not about abandoning the past or ignoring our life story. For some of us, each step is like a dance or walking on a labyrinth. Each step builds on the previous one, making way for what follows. Each small step is cause for celebration!
Perhaps the gift inherent in Easter is a “Wake Up” call to become fully alive? The things which ground us become pathways to new life. Nothing of the past or present is wasted. Each step invites us into the new emerging from the ground of our life. “Wake Up” to what invites attention!